What is your definition of comfort? Of convenience? Of luxury? If you had asked me this two weeks ago, my answer would have probably been something like “Being able to connect with anyone instantly on WhatsApp – now that’s convenience,” or, “Staying at the Ritz Carlton – that’s luxury.” But then I came across a quote that completely shook my perspective.

And then it all made sense. For the majority of us, convenience and comfort are equated with speed: travelling from Mumbai to Delhi in hours, getting groceries in 10 minutes, sending texts across countries in seconds – while luxury gets defined by possessions: a 4-BHK high-rise on Worli Seaface or a BMW iX with a 1 crore+ price tag.
Every one of us is aspiring to have a “comfortable life” or a “luxurious life” with these definitions. And as a result? Mounting pressure at work (because everyone wants deliverables done “as of yesterday”), a constant urge to be faster and more efficient, and a deliberate disregard for rest and health – all in the name of chasing more.
Thinking clearly
We’ve all heard the now-infamous (and almost cliched) line – that the average human attention span is lower than that of a goldfish. And it is only getting worse. We’ve not only lost the ability to focus for more than a few seconds – we’ve lost the patience to even try.

Many of us live our days on autopilot, especially when we fall into a routine. We do things without asking why we’re doing them or how we could make our day better – for ourselves or for those around us. We are always in an urge to do something to appear busy or to track “visible” progress, that we hardly have time to invest in deep thought. And of course, if we spend so much of our brainpower on switching between things, we rarely pause to think deeply about anything at all. No wonder we’re mentally exhausted even when we haven’t “done” much.
Sleeping deeply
Back in my consulting days – and even during IIT – getting by on minimal sleep was a badge of honour. And I know it still is. Among overworked employees, students, and night owls, sacrificing sleep for productivity, a football match, or a deadline is often seen as “commitment”.
There are numerous articles about how we’ve ruined our sleep cycles, how work schedules should be flexible enough to accommodate everyone’s chronotype, etc., so I will not go into those. But my point is that we’ve lost the ability to sleep and wake up naturally. When we sleep is defined by our schedule and deadlines, and not by when our body needs rest. When we wake up depends on our office hours, meetings, and gym sessions, and not when we feel truly rested.

Sleep was and is a basic necessity, but for most of us, it’s something we do in the “leftover” time of the day once all our other commitments have been catered to.
Moving slowly
In any city, and especially a place like Mumbai, nothing is slow. Even the “slow” local stops for all of 15 seconds at every station. We are always in a rush to finish things – not because everything we do is urgent, but because we are conditioned to think we should always be doing more. More deliverables, more chores, more meetings…

Even leisure activities are now goal-oriented – more countries to visit, more tourist spots to cover, more books to read, more movies to watch… That quiet pressure, often fuelled by FOMO, creates a kind of invisible disappointment – not because we didn’t enjoy what we did, but because we’re constantly aware of what we could have done instead.
In the pursuit of ticking more things off the (never-ending) to-do lists and bucket lists, we lose out on actually living in the present and enjoying those very experiences.

Living quietly
When was the last time you had a quiet moment to yourself with no noise? And I don’t mean just the honking of horns or the cacophony of construction equipment. I also mean without any notifications incessantly ringing, be it Instagram posts, news, WhatsApp messages, or that one app you’ve been meaning to uninstall but never did. Probably when you sleep? Or perhaps not even then.
It has become a fad to say that someone needs “me time” – but what is that anyway? It could mean having some time to focus on that hobby, or some time to try out a new skill, or perhaps just some time to be with your thoughts. We are bombarded with so much noise today that we have hardly any time to introspect or focus on ourselves – there is always something fighting for your attention (as I write this, my phone is on silent, but there is still that urge to check how many messages I’ve received).
How bad is it, really?
All these are interlinked. You are unable to focus because your phone is constantly buzzing. You lose sleep chasing unreasonable expectations to get that bonus pay cheque. Consequently, your tired mind and body cannot focus during the day, so you gulp two cups of coffee (ordered on Snacc or Bistro) to jolt yourself awake. You don’t want to devote time to “tedious” tasks like grocery shopping so you whip out Zepto. You want to reward yourself with a vacation to relax, but even then, you find yourself preparing a packed itinerary to make the most out of every day. You crave peace but don’t get any, amidst clickbait news articles and cat videos, amidst traffic and construction.
So…what can we do?
Our core way of life, especially in big cities, has been permanently altered – shaped by social media, quick commerce, and now, AI. And I think we simply cannot adjust to a drastically different lifestyle. I’m sure I’m not the only one who, after a particularly difficult day at work or period of stress, dreams of shutting shop tomorrow, packing up all I’ve got, and moving to the mountains. But we are so immersed in the comforts and conveniences of city life that starting a new life away from deadlines, alarms, and hustle sounds idyllic, but it remains a dream and not a plan.
Of course, people find different ways of hitting pause. For some, it is a 10k run every morning. For some, it’s taking a two-week break in Europe. For others, it’s reading a good book before going to bed… or in my case, going on treks to be surrounded by nature. But all these are still “breaks”. As I wrote in my previous blog post, sometimes, these pauses – the trips, the runs, the treks – are best experienced only as breaks. They are resets, not lifestyles.

We can’t undo the pace of the world around us – not entirely. But perhaps we can reclaim small pieces of stillness, of slowness, of silence. I’ve been encouraged to try out meditation by several folks, starting with my dad, though it is only in the last few months that I’ve started practising it actively, although I can’t say I am consistent about it. Even in its inconsistency, it is showing early signs of helping. Shutting out the world for a while, even briefly, has made it easier to think clearly, sleep better, and actually appreciate the silence.
Maybe we’ll realise that doing fewer things but doing them patiently, wholeheartedly, and with focus will help us actually achieve more versus just ticking things off a list.
In a world that’s racing ahead, true luxury is simply the courage to slow down.










